Hey Beautiful People!
In true Bella fashion, I woke up in another country this year for my birthday! This year was different though. This year I turned 35 and I decided I wanted to celebrate all by myself!
I didn’t feel one bit of anxiousness about it either. I have never felt more confident in my life. I actually felt excited. I was so happy that I only had to worry about myself. I didn’t have to plan an itinerary or do any research. I didn’t feel any pressure to make the trip enjoyable for anyone else. I only had to worry about me and as selfish as it sounds, it was everything I needed. Days leading up to my trip I kept praying for God to strengthen my intuition. He worked his magic because I met so many wonderful people while I was there. I only met one person on the whole trip that I felt off about and my intuition later confirmed that what I was feeling was right.
I decided to go back to Sorrento, Italy this year. This is part of the reason why I didn’t have to do any research for this trip. I fell in love with Sorrento 4 years ago when I went there on a day trip. It was beautiful, charming, and quaint. I knew it was safe for women to travel there alone.
The only thing I researched was where to stay. I decided to stay right outside of Sorrento in a town called Sant’Agnello. It was in (very long) walking distance from Sorrento’s center. I stayed at this beautiful villa. The staff was amazing and so helpful. I booked excursions without worrying about the price because I didn’t have to be mindful of anybody else’s budget. I ate when and where I felt like it. Guys, I had a birthday dinner BY MYSELF! Do you know how huge that is? Four years ago I would have never had dinner by myself, much less getting glam’d up to go to dinner by myself!! I would’ve been too scared of what other people would think.
This trip made me feel powerful and fearless as hell! People were staring but they were more intrigued instead of looking judgmental. They wanted to know if I was famous or who I knew to be able to do something so brave as to get all dressed up and eat alone. I let them wonder and I enjoyed every minute of it. I think everyone should do at least one trip by themselves. You will be surprised at how much you learn to trust yourself and pay attention to your needs. The most difficult part of my trip was finding people to take great pictures of me, and almost no one got my angles correct (insert eye roll here).
I visited Pompeii, Ravello, the Amalfi Coast, Positano, and Naples during this trip and I could write a whole blog about those places but this trip was more about me coming into my power as a woman and embracing my fearlessness. Traveling internationally solo is something that a lot of people I follow on social media do on a regular but it’s not something people in my everyday life have ever thought about doing at all. This post is for those people. Face your fears. Do something today to challenge yourself. You don’t have to travel across the world but I challenge you to do something you’ve been thinking about but have felt hesitant to do. You are powerful. We all are. So do it!
There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being apologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. -Steve Maraboli
That’s all for now folks!
PS. I wrote an article for 21NINETY about choosing joy! You can read it here.